Positive aspect of being a loser

There is a positive aspect of being a loser if it serves as a learning opportunity to experience and understand what it's like to be a loser.

sounds like a bit Fortune Cookie-ish?

What kind of friend are you?

When you are about to say to your friend, "What kind of friend are you?"...

just hold it, and ask yourself, "What kind of friend am I to him?"

Then usually you will get some answer.

Seek, and you will find?

You have to seek your own God and find him

The sooner you find him, the better

Do not wait until you regret

If you sincerely seek, then the situation will be set up (by someone) so that you can find him

Believe in this, then you lose what? --nothing

Keep your mind open

Try not to hold on to any concepts you may have

He may be just inside of you, waiting for so long to see you

Also it will be helpful if you could keep being totally honest to yourself in this process

You will find your own personal relationship with God

You need your own personal relationship with God

Your parents may have their own relationship with God, but that's one thing

and your having your own relationship with God is another

You could learn from them (good things and bad things)

You may not like what they believe or what they do

But the point is God put them as your parents, and his plan is that you learn from them and build your own relationship with him

Do not expect their faith will secure your entrance to some nice spiritual area

I know your birth from these particular set of parents is one of those unprecedented things in human history, but you are the one to tackle this and figure out what it means to you

it's not something somebody else can tell you. of course people may try to help you understand its value and significance, but it is only you who can figure out its true meaning

Yes, you have your own life.

You are you by your own right

I hope, though, still you can see things from "God's" (or, higher) perspective, and humbly search its meaning based on the understanding that you did not come to this world by your own decision, but only by God and only through none other than your parents your life has become the "fact" Don't ever forget that, or, underestimate what it means.

Well, I hope you can enjoy this research, and get closer and closer to possibly the most precious thing which ever existed in our human history.

May God be with you always, and you be with him also!

re: wasting time

this came to me in the bathroom last night:

You will never "waste" your time.

You may say, "I wasted my time!" or you may have such experience.

However, think about this; nothing happens by chance;

everything comes around to you for reasons behind for you to respond

You will be using everything that comes around to you for one purpose--fulfill your original purpose of your life

so, if you have such experience of having wasted your time, that would help you to have a certain determination or certain style of your life which those who didn't have such experience cannot have.

That means, your "wasted time" is, in fact, contributing to the fulfillment of your goal

So, there's no such thing as "wasting your time"

everything is a learning experience and you have an ability to utilize everything to accomplish your goal

because you are created as a "co-creator" by our Creator

So, do not waste your time in lamenting that you have wasted your time. (oops, again....)

re: blaming

If someone has to feel his value by blaming somebody else, that person may be living a very sad or lonely life, or, a miserable life, which deserves sympathy

So, first you need to be grateful that you do not need to live that way for some reasons

but also you could take it as a chance to reflect on whether you also are living that way or not

and then try to see what God is trying to tell you through this person, or situation

You will be surprised that what you were blamed was actually very true!

Most likely the case is, that you may be hurting people many times without realizing it

so, it's a good chance to be humble and determine to change your way of life

Anyway, the thing is; you are the co-creator who is given an ability to create heaven (or hell!) through your God-given "creativity", or, how you think, how you act, etc.

So, don't waste your limited time in blaming anyone including yourself, but use that time to create something positive, which you are the only one who can do and not even God can do for you

I have a question

If someone is telling you, "I gave this to you, I gave that to you, I gave.... but you never gave me anything. You do not practice what you preach, but I do!"

... what would you do?

That's where it begins; and one step at a time

Thus begins this one way massage

one step at a time

with a hope to one day grow to become a two way thing or even three

if there is no first step, there's nothing

but if there is first step, there is a hope of something else to come

not so many options anyway

One way or no way

One way is not good enough

but one way may be better than no way, I hope

"Blame" ---kinda tricky word

When you say, "Do not blame me", you may be blaming someone for blaming you.

Similarly, when you say, "Do not blame people", you may also be blaming someone for blaming people.

But, in fact, you are not blaming someone but you are saying it for that person's sake. (means, out of your love and care)

If that's the case, someone might be doing exactly the same thing to you, so...

instead of thinking that you are blamed, you can try to see that he is doing it for your sake (even if you may not feel that way)

You need to accept that possibility that he is doing it for your sake (means, out of his love and care)

Then, even if he is still not doing it out of his love and care, still a possibility is God might have used him to tell you what he wanted to tell you.

So, it is always safe to think, "what is God trying to tell me through him/through this?"

Then, usually you will find gratitude to God, and those God's agents.

My car suddenly stopped in the middle of the road

Right at that very moment, it was not easy to just say "Thank you, God!"

However, it was a very rare moment to stretch my mind and heart.

There are so many things to be thankful:

Somehow I have a car, while many people do not have such luxury

It did not stop in the middle of a "freeway" but in the middle of a local road (which helped me to avoid a serious accident)

I could contact AAA to have a peace of mind

Police came very quickly--I had a chance to think about their hard work and appreciate it

Police didn't want to wait until AAA truck comes and he called his tow truck-- I was so amazed by that young truck driver's driving skill-- a chance to talk to that young man and appreciate his hard work

I even found out AAA will reimburse my receipt from that non-AAA truck!

Within a half an hour I found myself at my favorite auto shop

and waiting for their comment with a peace in my mind

with a little (kind of big) fear about what (how much?) they are gonna say...

At least, I am still alive somehow. Thank God!

Now is the time for this message

"If my people who are called by my name humble themselves,

and pray and seek my face,

and turn from their wicked ways,

then I will hear from heaven,

and will forgive their sin and heal their land."

(2 Chronicles 7: 14)

"Itsumo nandodemo"

Right of way

I haven't come here for a while

Just a thought about "right of way"

"right" is just a right within the domain of traffic rule whose purpose is for safety

so, it's not exactly the same "right" which we normally mean

it is, in a way, a responsible duty to perform for the sake of safety

however, when someone insists on his "right of way" even when you have the "right of way", then, the rule says, "You have a right of way, but do not insist." yes, for the sake of safety.

therefore, it is not really good you try to give up your right of way in order to be "nice" to someone

it is, in fact, dangerous to do that

You need to perform your "right of way" for the sake of safety, but only if someone insists on his "right of way", then you do not insist on your "right of way" for the sake of safety

so, "safety" is the focus