"Blame" ---kinda tricky word

When you say, "Do not blame me", you may be blaming someone for blaming you.

Similarly, when you say, "Do not blame people", you may also be blaming someone for blaming people.

But, in fact, you are not blaming someone but you are saying it for that person's sake. (means, out of your love and care)

If that's the case, someone might be doing exactly the same thing to you, so...

instead of thinking that you are blamed, you can try to see that he is doing it for your sake (even if you may not feel that way)

You need to accept that possibility that he is doing it for your sake (means, out of his love and care)

Then, even if he is still not doing it out of his love and care, still a possibility is God might have used him to tell you what he wanted to tell you.

So, it is always safe to think, "what is God trying to tell me through him/through this?"

Then, usually you will find gratitude to God, and those God's agents.