re: blaming

If someone has to feel his value by blaming somebody else, that person may be living a very sad or lonely life, or, a miserable life, which deserves sympathy

So, first you need to be grateful that you do not need to live that way for some reasons

but also you could take it as a chance to reflect on whether you also are living that way or not

and then try to see what God is trying to tell you through this person, or situation

You will be surprised that what you were blamed was actually very true!

Most likely the case is, that you may be hurting people many times without realizing it

so, it's a good chance to be humble and determine to change your way of life

Anyway, the thing is; you are the co-creator who is given an ability to create heaven (or hell!) through your God-given "creativity", or, how you think, how you act, etc.

So, don't waste your limited time in blaming anyone including yourself, but use that time to create something positive, which you are the only one who can do and not even God can do for you